Symptoms of abuse
Batterers often use threats, power misuse, and control. Do any of the following situations fit your life?
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Using Emotional Abuse
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Puts the other person down
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Makes the other person feel bad about themselves
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Calls the other person names
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Makes the other person think they are crazy
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Plays mind games
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Humiliates the other person
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Makes the other person feel guilty
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Using Privileges
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Treats the other person like a servant
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Makes all the big decisions
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Acts like the master of the castle
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Is the one who determines the roles
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Using Economic Abuse
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Prevents the other person from getting or keeping a job
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Makes the other person ask for money
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Gives the other person an allowance
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Takes the other person's money
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Doesn't let the other person know about or have access to family income
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Using Coercion and Threats
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Makes or carries out threats to do something to hurt the other person
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Threatens to leave, to commit suicide, report the other person to welfare
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Makes the other person drop charges
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Makes the other person do illegal things
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Using Intimidation
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Using Children
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Makes the other person feel guilty about the children
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Uses the children to relay messages
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Uses visitation to harass the other person
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Threatens to take the children away
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Using Isolation
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Controls what the other person does, who they see and talk to, what's read, and where they go
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Limits their outside involvement
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Uses jealousy to justify actions
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Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
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Makes light of the abuse and not taking the other person's concerns seriously
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Says the abuse never happened
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Shifts responsibility for abusive behavior
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Says the other person caused it
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Has any of the following ever happened to you?
Does your partner:
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Blame everyone else, especially you, for his or her mistakes?
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Prevent you from seeing your family or friends?
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Curse you, say mean things, mock you or humiliate you?
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Force you to have sex or force you to engage in sex that makes you feel uncomfortable?
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Restrain, hit, punch, slap, or kick you?
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Intimidate or threaten you?
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Ever prevent you from leaving the house, getting a job, or continuing your education?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.
Last Updated on Wednesday, 12 September 2012 15:07
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